Candid talk | Conversations with my Femininity

Hey there  lovers of all kinds of hair,

I am glad you could join me today for the subtle art of telling the truth a little more and lies a whole lot less.

I am joined by the phenomenal Joy who brings sassy to her knees as she redefines it.

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Joy Lokarimi

Her blog is here.

She and I invite you to eavesdrop on our very loud conversation on the on going hair wars.

Caution; We are being candid for a moment here; It is an actual conversation, so the poems will be incorporated here in next week’s post.

Let’s do this;

To who it may concern

 

Attached is a letter addressed to the Natural hair movement and society

Dear Society,

PATSY: My hair texture is not popular but my culture is and I don’t get it. Am I supposed to be okay with that? For how long?

  1. Why are you so afraid to include 4a, 4b and 4c hairlistas in advertisements for products? You also are quick to send gift hampers to youtubers which is a great marketing strategy but the brand always has some 3a or 3c sis?
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    Just asking

     

    For how long will we wait until we get our turn? We, includes us the target market for the products’ – 4C naturalistas. You also should be ashamed seeking war by using demeaning ads when selling your relaxers. Our scalps are not a playground for your games with numbers. Stop treating our hair as a sport; playing around with numbers to sale products that we heavily invest in. We are saying no to this clownery, foolery, and mockery. All of it!

 

  1. To see a woman with short hair and assume she is out of touch with her femininity is a sad thought. In fact, allow me to introduce your ignorance as I shed light on this. If a picture says a thousand words, I give you gold, solid gold.

 

JOY: Do you need me to tell you I get it? Well, society, I get it! I get why you hate it/us –  men praise a different look. You hate it because media shows them with full length, curly, bouncy, and stretched out. And honestly, maybe it is much pretty – I mean, hasn’t this always been your definition of beauty? Believe me, I do get it! You have raised us to know our place, being beneath and in need of validation – story for another day! Being a 4C kind of girl is an adventure in the naturalista movement.

 

PATSY: An adventure I suppose you are not ready to be a part of unless you can prove me wrong…

 

JOY: If anyone would take the time…

 

  1. Society, you are always saying how I’m very creative, how I have a lot of time in my hands and how I’m super active, at the sight of my hair.Processed with VSCO with a6 preset

    Then in a split second, you haste too quick to whine at it being too much work and heavy spending. Society, you are quick to suggest how you prefer a fuller look and that our very own is too thin for this. Others say it bothers them how short-lived the different do’s last. Do I need to point this out as mere excuses

 

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Will we 4C ever be long enough, full enough, curly enough for you? DO you really need to weigh us in their scale? You (society) fail to measure your authenticity and somehow you are fit to measure mine?

 

JOY: Saying that my hair journey has been an easy one, would be one big lie I cannot afford, especially concerning my struggles because I am the kind that puts in a lot of thought on how other people will feel and think about my hair presentation – plus I’m small in stature, but I still went for it. My head is small but my confidence is much bigger. My worry is somewhere in there, but my smile is all over out there.

Often, females ask about maintenance of my very own mane, wondering how could they possibly pull of the look…If you want to go natural…and many ladies really want to, just go for it! What is the hold-up really

 

PATSY;Just before we finish with this Candid talk,

Dear Natural hair movement,

I understand you are more relaxed being natural. And……

 

JOY: It is eye-catching to be natural. You don’t believe it, but people get to take a second look at you…they begin to see the creative you, the confident you and by far the true you. It’s boldness and courage to be a naturalista. It takes confidence to rise above the notion that natural hair is not worth the struggle

PATSY: Confidence, the size of Africa

Joy;It is lazy not to be confident – bark at me all you want, but the main reason you are stuck without growth is because you are too lazy to have it otherwise. Too lazy to get to the store and add in some nice products to your stash and then shine all day long. Too lazy to put in the work.

 

PATSY: Too lazy riding on excuses! Just like the rules of CAPITALIZATION are unfair to the letters in the middle, you are being so unfair to your growth.

 

JOY: It is cleaner to be a naturalista –but sis, how often do you wash your hair in that wig or those braids? You know I’m right! Again, too lazy to put in the work.

 

TOGETHER: I hope these truths will be highly considered and put them into practice. We wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂

 

Yours faithfully.

Joy &Patsy

The end.

If you stayed until here,Thank you.

Also any addtitons or subratctions, hit us up in the comment section.

Blessings and Bliss

JustifiedEcstasy©2017

 

7 Responses
  • Siphosetu
    October 22, 2017

    Im inlove with the bald woman already! I cut my hair bald too sometimes!💜💜

  • Miss.Kizza
    October 22, 2017

    “My head is small but my confidence is much bigger. My worry is somewhere in there, but my smile is all over out there.”….these lines👏👏👌👌

    I tots agree .people stop me on streets ad ask how I maintain my natural hair and they seem to think it’s a lot of work😂😂 yet it’s not.

    Loved the piece.

  • ahebwaamootigrace
    October 23, 2017

    “It is lazy not to be confident – bark at me all you want, but the main reason you are stuck without growth is because you are too lazy to have it otherwise. Too lazy to get to the store and add in some nice products to your stash and then shine all day long. Too lazy to put in the work.”

    A very beautiful piece this is!!!

  • lokarimi
    October 23, 2017

    thank you Miss Kizza 🙂

  • angiesaccessorie
    October 23, 2017

    u and Joy nailed it!

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