22 THINGS I WOULD TELL MY YOUNGER SELF

Today is my birthday and the third day of blogmas where I share 22 things, I would tell my younger self? I am so blessed and thankful to God for making it higher on this second floor. Btw before we get into it, care to share what your fave or all time Christmas songs in the comment section below? Please take me all the way to the ’80s. Shall we do this already?

 

1.On fear.

This is definitely the first on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Fear has paralyzed so many of my dreams. It is crazy and also a true story of my life. Girl, there’s nothing to fear other than fear itself. I am sharing this truth with you for free.

2.On love.

Remember back in high school, when teachers told us to avoid girl-boy relationships. They really knew something. If you know me, this chapter is quite obscured in my great book of the phenomenal woman I am becoming. Number two on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Do not be afraid of heartbreak and love more importantly.

3.On  Friendships.

People love to scream you are meant to be there for your friend no matter what: Do not listen to them girl, it’s a lie. Some “friends” take and take, so once you find you are always watering someone and not getting watered back. Leave it. Don’t come and die for friendship. These wise words tweaked from a tweet from my internet auntie Tolly T and is the third thing on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Truthfully, adult friendships are hard. Life happens, do not get to busy to text or call those you love, it can go a long way. Become friends with people who are not in your age bracket or do not speak the same first language as yours! You will grow.

4.On Smiling

You know why not! Definitely forth on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Girl, smile as often as you can. This should not even be here on the list of things I would tell my younger self.

5.On Respect.

Random I know, but it still comes fifth on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Please boo, understand that you should always respect yourself. Invest in yourself. Show up for you. Choose you.

6.On Failure.

Girl, it is only a season, not a life sentence. It is a  hard pill to swallow but this is the sixth on the list of things I would tell my younger self. But guys I have collected my fair share of failures or rejected times in my life. But girl, cut yourself some slack like they say: The sun will rise,  and we will try again. My mantra remains Still I rise.

7.On Thanksgiving.

Gosh! This is my number seven on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Seven is the number of perfection. Keep filling your gratitude jars with daily lists of things you are thankful for.

8.On Perspective.

I bet you would not have guessed this is number eight on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Think of those( L’s ) losses in life as lessons and reward yourself for how far you have come.

Well, the list is short and sweet! Now let’s get into the really icky moments of my life that have taught me life is what you make it.

9.On Procrastination.

At number nine on the list of things I would tell my younger self is procrastination. Girl, procrastination is the arrogant assumption that God owes you another chance to do tomorrow what he gave you the chance to do today as Bishop Rosie O’Neal says. Productivity begets productivity. Do it, because your kids deserve a mom they can brag about. Do you know the author of this quote?

10.On Worry

Now in the tenth position on the list of things I would tell my younger self is worry. It is like an itch we can never scratch! Like the word says,  “Therefore I tell you, stop being worried or anxious (perpetually uneasy, distracted) about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, as to what you will wear. Is life not more than food, and the body more than clothing? Matthew 6;25.

11.On Beauty.

Yes, number eleven on the list of things I would tell my younger self is on the subject that lies in the eyes of the beholder. Glow up in your heart, mind, and soul. It will show up on your face and eventually everywhere! You go glow-getter.

12.On Change!

Why is this not number one on the list of things I would tell my younger self? Be a chameleon, adapt easily and be the change you want to be. I will continue to learn from my mistakes and challenge myself to become a better person

13.On Business.

Money matters come in at thirteen on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Do not be a jack of all trades. Do it well or do not do it at all.

14.On Comparison.

First of all, stop comparing your chapter one somebody else’s chapter thirty. Listen, queen, you know your competition is that negative behavior you nurture and lack of creativity. That is what the comparison rod or competition is all about. Do not even try to deflate those feelings. Just always remember it’s you versus you! Make sure you win. So yeah this is number 14 on the list of things I would tell my younger self.

15.On Negativity.

First of all, you have been criticizing yourself for far too long. Clearly, it hasn’t worked. Try accepting and see what happens. For the longest time ever, I have struggled with destructive self-talk! It is not even funny! Girl be careful of the words you use because they make become your reality. Drop the words I suck at or this is not for you. And this is number 15 on the list of things I would tell my younger self.

16.On Trouble

This is a must. It comes as the sixteenth on the list of things I would tell myself. There’s a quote I stumbled upon, “the trouble with learning from experience is there’s no graduation day. “Goodness, number 16, on the list of things I would tell my younger self.

17.On Insecurities

Girl, I need you to understand all the negative vibes people send your way are actually projections of their own securities and are absolutely irrelevant for your life. Grab all your insecurities and kiss them goodbye. Now that you are growing wiser, you see there is much need to care less of what people say or think, just do you boo. You can say that louder for those at the back regarding the list of things I would tell my younger self.

18.On Aggressiveness

The Kenyan in me demands to be heard. I love how much of a go-getter I have become and comes as number eighteen on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Do not be average. Please, girl, do not settle for less in everything you do, relationships, work to mention but a few.

19.On Confidence

Do you remember the days of GODFIDENCE ? You’ve really grown girl! Guys my confidence has grown the size of Africa! But I struggle on most days. Do not keep letting your ideas go to waste due to lack of confidence! Believe in yourself.

20.On giving

My name Mugabi means giver. I like how Akosua puts it, “Being a giver is no mean task, but I have to understand that simply because I give love freely doesn’t mean it will be given back in return and I have to be okay with that. I have to come to terms with the fact that not everyone will reciprocate.”

21.On Communication.

This is such a deal breaker. Lack of communication ruins everything. Instead of knowing how the other person is feeling we just assume. One shy away from 22 on the list of things I would tell my younger self.

22.On Forgiveness

Last but not least on the list of things I would tell my younger self. Let it go. Do not focus on the way people abuse your love and acts of kindness. Simply focus on the fact that it is on the inside of you and this what makes you beautiful as a human being. Keep going. I am so proud of you.

Is there anything you would tell your younger self? Share it with me down below!

Photography is by Caleb Okumu.

22 Comments

    • Patsy Mugabi

      Thank you my girl Carrelle for all the love and sunshine you keep sending my way.

  1. Akatukwasa Lisa

    I really believe and feel number 20 spoke to me! You’re destined for only the best my love, amazalibwa amalungi😘

    • Patsy Mugabi

      Girl, thank you for loving me!Lisa Here’s to creating more keepsake memories! I love you, my sister!

  2. Happy birthday Patsy! This is such lovely advice for young women. My fave ones are on gratitude, friendships and extending some grace to yourself. My husband once told me that one of the most difficult calculations is ‘counting your blessings’.

    • Patsy Mugabi

      Thank you so much Kyomm.I love that you resonate with some of my faves. I also have difficulty on most days doing those calculations but I am hoping to see a change in that though.

  3. Beautiful 🙌🙌
    So much insight.
    You said it all😊
    Happy Belated Birthday Patsy💞

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