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What does it mean to be Gucci?
Away from the label that spells va va voom quality ,what it really means to be Gucci is a global conversation that is very necessary for all of us as 20somethings.I got this idea after listening to Oprah’s Super Soul podcast ,an episode with Brene Brown, that talks about rising strong.It is here where she raises a clarion call for us to fail, learn and do it all over again.(Yes, you read that correctly).There’s something profound she shares that struck a chord within me:
Scars are easier to talk about than to show
. What do you think?
Truth is we all have been hurt, experienced failure or heartbreak you name it.And you know what, sometimes this hurt,failure or whatever it is happens when we have to make the right choice.
Of course, the right choice isn’t always the easiest choice; It’s either we end up hurting, offending or disappointing the people we love. Basically, Brene Brown shares how broken-hearted people are the bravest upon us. (I will explain why) ! She calls it the realization of us being who we’re really meant to be. So this is our baseline or what I mean when I say Be Gucci.
When is it relevant to be Gucci?
Honestly, I am glad you asked. A short backstory. I don’t know if you have heard, but there’s this militant group called Al-Shabab and they do this thing called terrorizing people. (I feel like they’re getting a lot of airtime by me saying their name on the blog, and this is not another haranguing post about their activities).
Anyway, last Tuesday these guys were at it again and man, it was one bloody scene
So far ,we can agree that to be Gucci means doing life with people not being solo.(Solomon do you copy, this pun is intended just for you incase your name is Solomon).To be Gucci is the realization of how we are tied together because of our humanity although we get to pretend otherwise based on lines of tribe, social status or religion.
Comrades, “we can never be able to free ourselves from suffering until we ourselves are free.” This is what she shares, and I think its Gucci. So be Gucci.Brene Brown
Back to the terrorist attack or how does Be Gucci “thing really work?
I will start by asking us to observe a moment of silence for the 21 people who passed.Since, you’ve been here for sometime, you know that fuels our relationship on this blog is subtle honesty.
Back to our story
Now, of course, my family back in Uganda are making calls to check in if I am alright and praising the Good Lord that I am.I, on the other hand, was asking Him, why I should give thanks for my life just because I wasn’t part of that statistic? (I know how ungrateful it sounds, but that was the space I was in
It was a long conversation which ended in a mutual understanding that His ways are not mine and to praise Him even when it was hardest to do so. This is part of the Be Gucci process that Brene Brown describes as being connected to a greater power. For me, it’s God, for others, it’s the Universe but that’s not the topic at hand today. Simply put, to be Gucci is a process altogether.
What’s that be Gucci process about?
The Be Gucci process is a practice of turning our failures upside down, taking responsibility for our emotions instead of projecting them on people.(Just go back and read this sentence again, thanks)
Remember, when I mentioned failure earlier in this blog post? Did you guys know that there’s such a thing as a failure of courage? It sounds something like this “I wish I had done it another way”; In my case, I wish I wasn’t so stuck up on how many times I have failed as a friend or performing on stage , there’s a lot I wish I had done in another way.The worst part is it even takes much more energy when you’re holding onto the failure and this is where the realization of being Gucci comes in.
A hypothetical case of being Gucci.
(It may also be true, who knows?)So the Boyfriend plays this weak game called cheating. My default position to make stories up in my head of why he left me. Of course, I feel betrayed but in my mind’s eye,
I start to think maybe I am not pretty enough. It’s not at the top of the list. There are so many things I want to say but I don’t want to sound like an angry feminist right now
I am filled with shame, confusion, grief, I lose trust in him, I can’t seem to forgive him. This is what we call the rumbling and it’s the second stage.
Brene Brown mentions how the grief comes from a place where you are mourning the idea of what you thought it was
In order for something to be born , something has to die.In this case , for forgiveness to happen, I must let go of the grief.
Will it be easy, no and that is Gucci.Be Gucci!
Listen being Gucci (read brave) means you’re going to have to be in discomfort except for when you’re wearing the label but hey listen, you’ll always be a class apart. Leave everything but remember this
Step 1 of our Be Gucci Process.
Reckoning. This is the recognition of the event. You have got to acknowledge it. It’s okay to be vulnerable. Brene Brown, says , it is the best measure of courage when someone expresses willingness to show up and be seen in any emotional state.
Step 2 of the Be Gucci process
Here’s three questions to ask in such a space;What do I know for sure?What do I know about other people in this story?What do I know about myself in this story?Be brave to clear those conspiracies) out with the people involved.
Step 3 of the Be Gucci process
In conclusion, the revolution is all about rising strong and also what it really takes to be Gucci. Yes, Rising strong was a plausible title for this blog post but be Gucci won.
Or like Brene Brown says: Show up to the reckoning. Show up to hear the rumble. And finally, show up to your revolution.
That’s it pips! That’s what it takes to be Gucci! Now you know its not a monologue,also leave your honest two cents in the comment section.
Photography by Caleb Okumu at Ngong hills
Blessings and Bliss.